Seestar_S50 ZWO support were the ones that recommended adding the weight. Turns out, you are correct....
Tonight's short window of clear skies allowed me to test. In a nutshell, the weights made NO DIFFERENCE. 5s subs were about as good as it got and even those were not great as far as star clarity. I changed my mount to be alt-az and I'm getting 60 second subs for over 42 minutes with only a few rejections (6, as the clouds are rolling in and it's harder to tell why).
This kinda points to something wonky in the firmware. My only thought is to do a factory reset and maybe some accumulated kruft will clear itself when it reloads a fresh copy.